I felt like going off on a rant, saying; “No it isn’t ok. Why didn’t you just say you definitely wouldn’t come rather than yes then no then yes? Exhausted? If you become a mum, you’ll know what exhausted really means. Going out to an event or a club until the wee hours does not mean exhaustion. Night after night of broken sleep, holding down a full-time job (especially in the early days) and looking after a little one on your own with no family support causes exhaustion. But I’m ok, I keep going. Out of the three times you came, one you almost let me down on (hummed and hawed until 8:30 pm the night before). I put ‘reliable babysitters only’ on my ad, and you’re clearly not. I will not be writing you a reference”
Instead I simply said I would not require her services any more and wished her well. I honestly do.
I won’t be writing a reference though!